The Great Facebook Announcement
October 12, 2012
So… I did it. I posted on Facebook, to a limited audience, that I’m looking for a gestational carrier. Many people are curious about the wording so here it is:
Just wondering if I happen to know anyone who just LOVED being pregnant. Anyone ever consider being a surrogate/gestational carrier?
It’s a long story but I may be looking for a carrier and just wondered if anyone I know might consider it. I’m happy to share the full story with anyone who asks but the bottom line is that we have 2 frozen embryos and past experience has proven that my body is not a good place for them. And being pregnant seems to put me in the hospital and require emergency surgery.
So I just thought I’d put that out there. No pressure.
I limited the audience for several reasons:
- Right Guy doesn’t want random people coming up to him (at work, for example) asking him about this.
- The only reason to include people who are not eligible to be carriers would be if they knew someone and I’m looking for someone *I* know.
So I started by making a list of female Facebook friends who I know have children and are under 40. Then I added their significant others – mostly in case the female half of the couple didn’t see the post, but also because they should be in the loop too. Then I added a few guys I know are fathers but, for whatever reason, I’m not Facebook friends with the female half of that couple. I actually left out the one friend who is still considering doing this for me. I didn’t want her to see the post and feel pressured to give me an answer. Although I did include my BFF from high school who, at one time offered but then rescinded.
I have wrestled with myself quite a bit about this list and still continue to ponder opening it up more (there are only 36 people on the list). But I think I did the best I could.
Now we wait to see if anyone comments. I am hoping that, at the very least, people are curious to know the full story. My worst fear is that NO ONE responds AT ALL. Oy.